As almost anyone who has been married will tell you, your wedding day will absolutely fly by. You’ll roll in to bed at the end of the night and wonder where the day went.
I want you to have the most amazing wedding day ever. So here’s a little bit of advice for those of you planning your weddings. Here are the 5 top mistakes couples make on their wedding day, and what you can do to avoid making them too:
Having A Tight Schedule Without Room For Delays
No matter how many pieces of paper you give your guests with the running order of the day, you simply can’t be in control of everyone and everything. Sometimes it’s traffic that prevents you from getting to your ceremony on time. Sometimes the family photos take more time than planned because someone has to go searching for Great Aunt Mildred. And one little delay usually causes a knock on effect and everything then runs late. Short delays aren’t really a big problem. Most wedding suppliers are used to things running a little late. But to make sure that you plan doesn’t get completely thrown out of the window, just ensure to add extra time for everything. Allowing more time than you need will allow everyone to be able to relax and enjoy the day without constantly having to check their watches to see where they need to be next.
Trying To Take Care Of Everyone All Of The Time
It’s natural to want to make sure your guests are having a good time. Especially at destination weddings where you know they have travelled a long way to celebrate with you. Sometimes couples are so worried about their guests having a good time that they feel like they need to be with them all throughout the day and have to keep them entertained with activities. At our wedding we organised some outdoor garden games and in the evening we thought everyone would want to dance so we set up some music. We didn’t want people to feel bored, and we were especially worried about what would happen when we went off for photos. Well guess what, our guests got themselves a drink and they mingled around chatting. Some played games. Almost nobody danced. We’d organised so much for them to do, but actually they were just happy with a cold beer and good company. If you have small children it can be useful to arrange something like a colouring book for them but your adult guests will be absolutely fine at amusing themselves. So stop worrying about them.
Not Allowing Enough Time For Couple Photos
Bearing in mind my first two points above, if timings are running late and you’re worried about leaving your guests alone, it’s usually the time that should be allocated to couple shots that gets neglected. I can totally shoot some portraits of you both in 20 minutes if I have to, but I’ll be completely honest. If we only have 20 minutes, you are probably going to feel rushed for one, which is going to make it very hard for you to get those relaxed and natural shots that you want. Secondly, if we only have a short amount of time we’re probably not going to be able to go very far, meaning your wedding guests might be watching. Your portraits are a time when you can go off by yourselves, slow down, relax and let everything sink in. Those beautiful, intimate moments happen when you are alone and relaxed. They don’t tend to happen when your new mother-in-law is standing 10 meters away. By scheduling 60-90 minutes it means you’ll get some time away by yourselves to take some beautiful pictures that you’ll be able to treasure for the rest of your lives together.
Worrying About The Little Details
I understand. You want your wedding day to be perfect. You want all of the details you’ve spent months planning to turn out just how you imagined them. And I really hope that they do. BUT if something doesn’t quite turn out how you expected it to, try your best to laugh it off and remember the most important thing – you are getting married today! When you look back at your wedding photos in 10 years time, you won’t care that the venue forgot to tie those matching coloured sashes on the chairs. You probably won’t even notice!
Not Having A Plan B For Bad Weather
It’s what you dreamed of. A mountain top ceremony with guests drinking Aperol Spritzers on a sun terrace. The only problem. There’s a blizzard out there. There’s nothing stopping you standing out in whatever the weather to say your vows if that is what you want. I’ve seen couples say their vows in the pouring rain. But make sure you have a back-up plan in case you don’t want to get cold/wet/blown away. Even it that back up plan is having somewhere to go and warm up and dry off afterwards.