Destination weddings are becoming more popular and many couples are choosing to break traditions and tie the knot away from home. But for some couple’s it can be hard to decide whether having a destination wedding is right for you, so I’ve tried to list some of the pros and cons of a destination wedding.
Pros and Cons of a Destination Wedding
You can pick a location and venue that matches your personalities and style. If you live for your yearly skiing holiday, maybe a ski wedding in the Alps is the perfect destination.
You can have a totally unique wedding. Most weddings run with the same schedule; church or registry office, dinner and disco, often in locations that at least one guest has been to before. Having a destination wedding means that you can embrace the uniqueness of your location and do whatever you like, perhaps embracing some of the local customs.
It’s not just a wedding. It’s an experience. And you can bet your guests will be talking about it for months to come.
If you and your partner are from different hometowns/areas/countries, you can choose a destination that is “neutral ground”. This means that all your guests will most likely need to travel to the location, so one side family won’t be upset that they have to travel when the other side doesn’t.
You can keep the guest list to just close family and friends. So many times I hear couples complaining about feeling obliged to invite every distant relative and work colleague to their wedding, despite the fact that these people don’t even send as much as a Christmas card each year. And even if you still feel like you need to invite them, having to fly out to another country will often weed out the people who are just looking for a free meal and drinks.
It can actually work out cheaper. Even though you might have to pay more for flights and hotels, the guest list for a destination wedding is likely to be smaller, since you won’t be feeding and watering 100 people. That means you’ll have more budget to spend on things that you actually want!
It’s a holiday with your nearest and dearest and a honeymoon all combined into one.
You can have a second party (if you want to). If you are having a small destination wedding but still want to celebrate with other friends and family back at home, why not organise a post-wedding party? It’s also a great excuse to put on your dress again, or maybe even have a second dress!
If you dream was to have a big wedding with hundreds of guests, you may find many will not be able to attend due to finances or them not being able to take the time off work.
For a legal marriage to take place, each country will have different legal requirements. This will usually include submitting lots of paperwork, some of which may need to be translated by a certified translator. This can be both time consuming and costly. You may also need to have a translator at the ceremony. In this situation, it is a good idea to hire a wedding planner/coordinator who can assist you with these legalities.
You may have to trust a large amount of planning to people you have not met.
If you are not getting married in an English speaking country (or whatever your native language is), then there may be some language barrier issues, which can make organisation and planning a bit more difficult.
Your family will be there the whole time, which may not be the most relaxing honeymoon. Although you could extend your stay after your guests have departed to get some well-deserved rest and relaxation.
What do you think? Do the pros outweigh the cons or is a destination wedding too much stress for a small, intimate affair? Planning a wedding, whether it’s at home or abroad can be stressful. Just remember what’s it’s all about; you and the person you love promising to spend your lives together.
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